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My bff this guy who calls her every day he defense her all the time he gets jealous when he sees her talking to other boys( a bit), he also tease and tickles her. He told her the person he likes, but when he describes her it's likes he's describing my bff cause what he says are nothing like the girl he SAYS "he likes" So do you think the guy likes my bff? (btw can you answer this privately because I know he has Tumblr, Thank you very much :D)
Zel: o_O That was a bit confusing, I’m not going to lie, haha. But I can’t really respond to this privately when you sent it anonymously… Anyway, from what I THINK I could understand from this.. It’s possible that he might like her but is too shy to admit it. When someone likes you and you ask them who they like, they may be too scared to admit it’s you, so they try to be sneaky about it. People do that sometimes. I’ve done it before, haha.
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how long do you think its normal for a couple to wait to say "i love you"? weve said it once before and it was the most emotional experience of my life. but we agreed we didnt want to overuse the term and we always say "i like you" instead. problem is that i am in love with him. but i dont know if i should just say it, or if he should say it first again, or what.
Zel: I don’t really believe that there’s a set amount of time before a couple can say it to each other. All that matters is whether you’re being sincere when you utter those words. Seriously, don’t overthink it and don’t hold yourself back from letting someone know how much they mean to you. If you love someone, tell them. What is there to be scared of? Screw anyone who tells you guys it’s “too early” to say it, only the two of you really know how you feel. Let it come naturally.
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what is the longest you have gone without talking to your significdant other? lately my SO and i havenot talked in a while and i cant stand it...
Jeah: to be honest… i think 3 days was my longest, or 4. but it was with one of my exes..
if it bothers you, you should really talk to you “SO”, like tell him/her why you two aren’t talking with each other. if its a fight, solve it. o;
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My friends kinda being hypocritical. She's talking about how we never hang out, that I'm always with another friend of mine, and how I don't invite her when I go to the movies with some of my friends or to hangout with them. Buut she doesn't hang out with me as much either. She goes to the movies and parties and hangs out with OUR friends, that I know too. And she knows things about the club were in, but I have no way to know, and she doesnt tell me either. Is she being hypocritical?
Zel: I think you answered your own question within your first statement. :P But if it’s really bothering you, you should point it out to her. Try not to say it in a menacing way though, if you want to avoid an argument. She’s being unfair, but whether or not she realizes it is another matter.
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What if he says their relationship is complicated and that sometimes, even being in a relationship, he feels lonely? And he also mentioned to someone (who told me) that it was complicated because it involved someone else. But I don't know who that 'someone else' is. What to do? (I'm the same Anon from the post on December 15, 2011.)
Zel: Ehh, I don’t know what this whole “someone else” business is all about… But their relationship being “complicated” and him sometimes feeling “lonely” are all lame excuses. Actually, the fact that he’s saying he’s sometimes “lonely” doesn’t roll well with me. Do you want to be his distraction? Feeling “lonely” is not an excuse for anyone to fool around with other people if they’re still in a relationship. Unless they both agreed to be in an “open” relationship, I still don’t think it’s a good idea to actively pursue him right now. He should suck it up and be a man and terminate his current relationship if he wants to start another. You can’t just mess with peoples’ feelings like that. It’s selfish.
Of course, it’s entirely up to you to decide what you want to do. But just from what information I’ve gotten, I seriously thinks he needs to be left alone to figure his crap out before he gets involved with anyone else. It’s this kind of thing that makes me question people’s sincerity and faithfulness in relationships. -o-;;;
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backround; im a virgin, kind of a square. 17 year old girl. my bf is 19 and the sweetest guy ive ever met. i am completely and totally happy in this relationship. but whenever we get alone, when things get a little bit more, steamy, (for lack of better term), afterwards, he always feels like hes pushed me too far, or he feels guilty, even if i am perfectly happy. is this normal? should i continue to assure him that i regret nothing? im assuming he does it out of respect..
Zel: Awh, of course it’s normal. :3 Especially if he knows you’re a virgin. Maybe he feels there’s some pressure since- if it were to happen- he’ll be the one who took your virginity away. I think it’s sweet that he’s actually being careful. But if you’re truly okay with it, yes, keep reassuring him that you’re perfectly fine. :)
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i have no motivation for anything anymore. how do i get motivation to actually do something in school, to study and to socialize, or how do i do those things?
Jeah: Have a goal and a reason. Have an inspiration too. My inspiration is my boyfriend, because we have a future and I want to be successful and live with him happily with no problems, you know? If you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend, have your parents be your inspiration, because you want to make them happy by getting good grades and NOT disappoint them.
So, when you wake up in the morning tomorrow, stretch, smile, and look in the mirror and laugh. Get ready, dress up, and just fucking-do-things. Hang out with friends, get shit done, make your parents smile. Like I said, have a goal.
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honestly, i just don't want to even be alive anymore. im pretty sure my mom hates me since im always talking back to her, i don't fit in anywhere at school, im socially awkward. i just can't deal anymore, i just don't want to even try anymore. i can't do anything right and i always mess everything up and make people mad. i want to kill myself but i don't have the guts. i just want everything to stop. help.
Jeah: Okay here.
Take things one step at a time. You don’t see a baby being born and suddenly running everywhere before they could even walk.
First, you should learn to control your anger (Which I assume you have because I used to talk back to my mom because I was irritated with her) and if not anger, control what ever negative emotions you have and turn them good. Breathe. When you talk to your mom, or before you even say anything to her, breathe. Don’t raise your voice. Just say… “okay mommy”. It makes things a lot more easier if you would agree. Also, one of my ex boyfriends taught me this method of dealing with my parents called the “I” talk. What angers parents apparently is if you blame them for everything, such as, “NO YOU DID THAT” “YOU DIDNT SAY THAT”. Instead, you should say, “Oh, I didn’t know about that” or “I’m sorry I didn’t hear you, I will do it later”
You take the blame on yourself and fix them yourself.
Also, for school. Just start saying hi and smiling often. I’m socially awkward myself. But I started meeting people when I just walked in my room and smiled at the people around me.
I’m sure you don’t mess everything up all the time and I’m sure you don’t make people mad all the time either.
Like I said, take things one step at a time. If you rush it all, you’ll just hurt yourself even more.
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Hi. What do I do if I like someone that's already in a relationship with someone? I told one of my guy friends about my crush, and he said that the guy I like might like me back a little and that they're distanced because of the fact that she goes to a different school, so I still have a chance. But everyone's been telling me not to give up. Should I?
Zel: Well.. I don’t think you should necessarily give up your feelings for them if you feel strongly for them.. But at the same time, you need to respect boundaries. Don’t get in the way of other people’s relationships. You wouldn’t be very happy if someone tried to steal your boyfriend from you, would you? :/ If you think you have a chance, then wait. If they really weren’t meant to be together, then they’ll break up eventually. That’s why I say you don’t necessarily have to give up. You can have your chance then. But right now.. try to be respectful, yeah? It doesn’t matter if she goes to a different school. That’s not her fault. Don’t barge into someone else’s relationship. @__@;; Give people the same kind of respect you would expect if you were them.
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Hii. Thanks for answering, and for offering to let me rant to you two. I really do appreciate it. It's weird though. I sort of want to pour my heart out to you, but at the same time, I can't bring myself to do it. I think I've been closed off too long. Pretty much every time I've opened up to someone, things turned out badly. Even if it's anonymous, I don't feel that I can truly be open with you. I'm sorry, I guess it's sort of a paradox. I don't make sense.
Zel: It’s fine, you shouldn’t feel like we’re pressuring you into doing that or anything. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. :) We’re just letting you know that- if ever you feel ready to- you can talk to us. <3